It’s far too often that I hear people say newcomers are ruining the rave scene. PLUR princes and princesses are snubbing first timers because they are rude, reckless, and irresponsible. Can you blame them? It’s a shame to see this happen. I remember when people used to get excited when they heard, “It’s my first rave!” At my first rave the seasoned ravers were so eager to show me the ropes. They would grab their friend to give me a lightshow, light up at the chance give me my rave name, and be thrilled to bestow me with my first piece of kandi. People used to be excited to share this world with others. Now it seems that’s not the case.
I can understand people’s apprehensiveness when newcomers don’t know the first thing about our culture and assume that raves are just a place to get fucked up. It’s insulting to share something special with someone and see it go unappreciated. The moments I spend singing and dancing to my favorite DJ’s music are some of the most cherished moments of my life. I wish new ravers could understand how to properly experience that. But then again, maybe it’s not their fault. People say don’t blame the kids, blame the parents. So maybe their rave moms and dads were not good rave parents. Well, I’m here for you guys. I don’t want you to be the person who doesn’t get respect for getting it all wrong. Here’s 5 things you should know before attending your first rave.
Come with an open mind and open heart.
PLUR – Peace, love, unity, respect. To a first time raver this code of conduct may sound cheesy. In fact, it might even make you uncomfortable or embarrassed to take it seriously. But the fact is, to us a rave is a utopia. It’s an escape from the serious hardships or everyday life: prejudices, loneliness, judgement. It’s a place where you are encouraged to break out of your shell and truly be yourself. Step outside of your comfort zone, leave the rules (social stigmas?) of modern society at the gate and embrace the positivity you will (hopefully) find.
Mind your conduct.
You aren’t just representing yourself, you are representing everyone. Raves have a massive stigma because some individuals are irresponsible and careless. I understand that people want to let loose, but the drinking and smoking is supposed to enhance your experience not make it. We get stereotyped as druggies when we are normal people trying to live our lives responsibly and have fun at the same time. Ravers are some of the most amazing people you’ll have a chance to meet. It’s a shame that society does not recognize that so please don’t make it more difficult for us.
Do your research.
Find a couple artists you’re really excited to see and a couple songs you will be able to sing along to. Experiencing the excitement for the same song/DJ with thousands of people is an incredible experience. This is the moment you will realize why U stands for Unity!
This isn’t a place to hook up, this is a place to make friends.
Don’t be that creepy guy or girl. Yeah, people may be showing more skin, but here is where they should have the freedom to. Do you go to the beach and expect someone to hook up with you because they are in a bikini? This kind of behavior is not warranted. Let interaction happen organically and send out good vibes…not creepy ones.
Pick a solid crew.
The crew you go with can make or break your experience so choose wisely. Make sure the people you go with are reliable, positive people who make the best out of any situation, and have a similar energy level as you. Pick a group where you know at least a few people really well. It’s important to know that if a situation arises where someone needs to miss their favorite DJ for you they will do it. Still, when you don’t know half the group, bonding with them is half the fun. You will inevitably grow close with these people.
Get excited and embrace this beautiful culture! You’re going to have an amazing time, meet some amazing people and hopefully be good rave parents for whoever you bring into our world.