Getting separated from your friends at a rave might sound like a terrible thing, but it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes people panic when they find themselves in this situation because they think they won’t have as much fun alone or they just stress out about finding their group again and forget to enjoy the experience. Believe me, you can still have an amazing night regardless!
I’ve experienced both ends of the spectrum – losing my group and losing a member of my group. Either way, the night turned out just fine. The few times it happens, it just happens so quickly. Usually, it happens while you’re going from one stage to the next, sometimes during a set, or on a bathroom or water run. One second you’re right behind your festy bestie and the next moment, you’re lost in a sea of strangers. At first, you’ll look around and try to spot your crew and maybe take a couple laps around the area, but it seems the more you move to look for them and the more they move to look for you, you stray further and further apart until you realize your efforts are fruitless. Never fear, if you find yourself in this situation, just stop looking for them. For one, it takes away from the experience and in a crowd of thousands of ravers, it’s nearly impossible to find them again. Secondly, I’ve found that when I’m not actively looking for them, it seems fate brings the group back together again eventually. Lastly, it’s a great opportunity to make some new friends which makes the night even better!
At a rave, you’re surrounded by many friendly people with positive energy. If there was a place that you’re pretty safe being lost at, it’s a rave. If you’ve just lost your crew, turn to the friendly tall guy next to you and ask him to put you up on his shoulders. With that view, you might be able to catch your friends or they’ll be able to see you! If you have been alone for a while, just trade kandi and strike up a convo with him instead to make a new friend!
If you’re a little more shy, I find it’s easiest to strike up a conversation with people who are sitting down, catching a break on the sides. Once they hear that you’ve lost your group, they’ll more than likely invite you to join their group! If you don’t mind raving solo, then you’re golden. Go off and check out all those sets you wanna catch with no one to hold you back. There’s no need to ever feel like a loner or like you’ll look weird being by yourself, because in this environment, nobody is judged. If your favorite DJ is playing an amazing set, don’t be afraid to dance by yourself and enjoy it! Jump and dance like nobody is watching! Sometimes people see you dancing and having a good time all by yourself and that positive energy attracts them to you, so let loose and have fun – that’s the whole reason you came in the first place right?!
Getting lost isn’t uncommon, but if you prep yourself and your group for it, you’ll set yourself up for a good time no matter what. Some rave families set up meeting points throughout the night so that you always know where they’ll be later and can meet up with them then. It give people the freedom to see whatever sets they want to see and still be able to spend time with their crew as well! Other rave families take it a step further and have a specific area at each stage that they always post up to make it easy to meet up with other groups as well. And lastly, if you’re separated at the end of the night, just meet at the car! Your friends shouldn’t leave you behind anyway, so they’ll be waiting there and you’ll have service after the event so you’re golden!
Don’t let getting lost intimidate you – there is nothing wrong with raving solo so keep being the incredible person that you already are, and watch the night turn into an unforgettable one. Have fun and don’t worry because it doesn’t matter who you are with or who is around you, as long as you are living it up and having a great time!
A free spirited, loving raver living a very PLUR lifestyle :)