This is often said to people, in their mid-twenties and beyond, who enjoy going out to music festivals, raves, clubs, and so forth: People like you and I. When I hear this, I wonder how or what these people think about partying. Have they experienced what we’ve experienced? All those nights going out to festivals or clubs, going out with friends, enjoying their time. Did they not see the value in those moments? Or maybe they just stopped having fun because it got “old”.
If you think about it, when people say these things, it is similar to saying: Stop having fun, living your life, and enjoying what you like. However, it goes beyond this, and it’s a statement with an undertone to stop meeting people, making connections and learning about yourself. The people who say these things often have no experience in this kind of scene, or not aware of the real-life value that festivals and partying brings us. Partying isn’t just about getting crazy. It’s about learning about yourself and other people.
What are people looking for when they are coming to these events? Whether consciously or unconsciously, I believe we go to these events to find ourselves through music and people.
Of course, there’s a place and time to party. Always partying to “get lit” isn’t good either. When the enjoyment starts affecting your life and becomes a form of addiction and if it brings harm to yourself or others, then maybe you should reconsider this lifestyle. If you use partying as a form of escapism or find yourself running away from your life’s problems, then that’s a clear sign that you also don’t see the constructive value in it.
If you can view festivals and partying in a whole other perspective, going to music festivals can potentially help you improve your life in areas which you didn’t imagine. Partying will become a way to be more aware of yourself and others.
The Real Value of Partying
In a Huffington Post article written by Frank Fitzpatrick, he talks about music and going to events in a psychological viewpoint. He states that they allow us to develop a positive self-identity, contribute to our well-being, reduce stress, and nurture friendships. In his article, he cites people in the fields of social psychology and musical educational research:
“Music can support and enrich the development of a positive self-identity as well as provide confidence, motivation and a sense of belonging. Music can enhance creative, social and emotional skills. Music can be both a sense of self-preservation and fundamental wellbeing , providing a source of support when youth feel stressed, troubled or lonely . Adolescents even hold expectations about the values and characteristics of fans of certain kinds of musical styles, attributing a kind of label for themselves and others around musical preferences . Participation in musical groups or performances can further contribute to building friendships, self-esteem and social skills”
Partying Brings Self-awareness
People go to music festivals to feel something, whether it's in music or the connection with other people. When you get lost in the music, you can find yourself.
To go further, partying gives us a chance to see ourselves as we are. This is kind of a difficult concept to grasp but take this situation, for example, you saw someone you wanted to talk to. They seemed pretty cool, cute, or sexy. But, by the end of the night, you weren’t able to say anything because something in your mind was holding you back. Self-defeating beliefs or the fear of being rejected stopped you from making a friend, meeting a cute girl, or connecting with someone.
This very common situation can give you somewhat of a snapshot of what kind of person you are at the present moment. From here, you’ll be able to evaluate your insecurities, how social or anti-social you are. You can see the interpersonal skills you need to work on, and the fears that you're not entirely conscious about that stem from your past. Through this, you'll be able to be a little more introspective like "why couldn't I talk to that person?", or "why am I the way I am?".
From an awareness of our current selves, we can learn how to accept ourselves as we are. Then, we can make conscious decisions to improve ourselves, our social skills, and to face our social anxieties.
Eventually, what prevents us from enjoying the moment and enjoying it with other people is ourselves, and we can see that through our experiences in music festivals and parties. Why would you go to a music festival if you didn’t like people? If you’re just in it to see your favorite artist, I can respect that. But more often than not, people go to festivals to enjoy the music, all the while making new friendships and connections. It’s to feel a sense of belonging that we as humans need.
Our experiences within a music festival or party affect us more than we think. From the people, the music being played, the stage, setup up, artwork, everything. Whether big or small, our being is the sum of our experiences. From these experiences, we can choose which direction to take. Unless you are a person who really doesn’t care about other people, people influence you and it’s important to understand this.
Promotes A Sense of Belonging
Going to music festivals allows us to find people like us. We can find people who are interested in the same things and same kinds of music.
To go even deeper, essentially, humans want to have a sense of belonging. This sense of belonging became a natural part of evolution because it ensured our survival. Humans worked together through membership of a group. This is a powerful force which allows us to gather in groups. However, we are lacking this day after day with the development of technology and social media. As you already know, these are things are making people lose touch with each other. Music mitigates that lack of connection nowadays and brings us together.
Festivals and partying give us chances to reconnect and create a real human connection with others. Through festivals, we can reclaim our feeling of membership in a larger community.
No matter how much you say about how you don’t care about those who judge you, I have to be completely honest with you: You do. This is a natural feeling though, don’t worry about it. You want to be accepted, so you find friends and join a community which accepts you. However, you will be accepted as these places created as a non-judgemental space. Here, we can find people very much like ourselves.
Partying Allows Us to Do This
Enjoying our nights out, music festivals, and so forth gives us the chance to see yourself and to see the world. Within a party, you can see what people really want. It's actually really simple: People want to be happy with other people.
This is why going to music festivals shouldn’t be for only young people. Generation-this, generation-that. This festival culture and environment that you and I know of is open to all forms of life. Party animals and party people included.
Again, it’s all about the time and place to do something. It’s all about finding balance within life. If we can see the value that partying can give us, we can consciously and constantly work on ourselves to become better people. We can eventually become our ideal selves through our own effort in addition to the help of other people in our community. We can uplift the world if and when we make changes to ourselves and start to look within.
Adopt A Party Philosophy
Maybe one day, I’ll “grow out” of partying and going to festivals and clubs. Hey, maybe I’ll lose all interest in getting out of the house in general. But I will never say to anyone “aren’t you a little too old to be partying?”. If you adopt a new kind of party philosophy, you’ll be able to see the value in how partying can potentially allow one to make improvements through conscious effort despite age.
For people like you and I, partying and going to festivals have become an important part of our lives because we know how music brings people together. But not only people. It brings us together. Partying, music festivals and the like can bring us to an awareness that can potentially allow us to become our ideal selves.
Inspiration for this story
The pictures I’ve used above are from EDC Tokyo 2017. I remember telling someone that I was going to this music festival to write for iHeartRaves and suddenly that person told me “aren’t you too old to be partying?”. This idea hadn't even crossed my mind until that day because I’m still fairly young and in my mid-twenties. Fast forward a bit: When I got to EDC Tokyo, I remember standing in the crowd and suddenly thinking about what had been said to me. I was actually wondering if I should really stop partying because this will affect my image to my peers, coworkers, or people who I cared about.
However, as I looked around me, seeing people enjoying themselves, letting loose and being free as the music played, I said “no F-ing way”. I thought that I wasn’t giving this up because someone believes that one “grows out” of partying and becomes mature. They only believe so because someone else told them the same thing. They bought into the idea that partying is only for young people and that people cannot enjoy when they are older. People who say this don’t know the true value that music, partying, and festivals bring others.
From that day, I decided that it was important for me to show the importance of music and festivals. However, I knew that I have to start from somewhere. This is one of the reasons why I created AllNightOwt based in Osaka, Japan. I wrote about it in my Instagram post:
I’m a big dreamer. I’ve learned from the best.
Thus, I have many goals for AllNightOwt. With this blog and website, I hope to reach out to people to deconstruct the image of partying. At the same time, I want to emphasize the importance of music and bring the community together through events, despite race, ethnicity, or religion. With this, I hope to also bring more attention to the Japanese nightlife scene in order to bring more people. While more people start looking at Japan as a great place to party, it will convince more and more artists and producers to come as well. My aim is to bring high-quality music to Japan, but also maintain Japan’s quality of partying. There’s a lot of good things about Japanese culture that I hope to share with the worldwide party community. In this way, I seek to bolster cultural exchange: Learning and coming to an understanding from both Japanese people and travelers.
While I work my butt off and continue to write about this, my only request is this: Please follow me and continue reading. Please spread this information to anyone and everyone. If you need any information on where to go and where to party in Osaka, please feel free to contact me so I can guide and help you to party as best as you can.
With that being said, thank you for always reading party people. I appreciate all the support. Hope to hear from you guys and what you think http://allnightowt.com/
Some dude born in Hawaii, and now living in Osaka, Japan. Seeking ways to live more profoundly by chasing experiences rather than things. Luckily, I have found myself in a community which allows me to do that.